When M and I first got together, I was a polyamorous promiscuous kitten stepping into a monogamous and stripped back relationship that, on first glance, was quite vanilla to the unobservant eye. We were, through a variety of accidents and pushes, thrown into a 24/7 living arrangement, with me moving in within the first 3 months. Our D/s dynamic was, as I’ve said, stripped back, as M wanted me to find out who I really was underneath the numerous personas and cloaks I’d hidden behind over the years, the real me.
Fast forward 2 years to today and we remain happy and stronger than ever, and although I yet don’t know the full ‘me’ yet, we’ve made significant steps forward and M still loves the ‘me’ that we’ve found. The process of rediscovery hasn’t been without pain, and I’m not talking about the good pain, and there has been a lot to strip back. In doing so my duties have been very light and our D/s has remained present but without strict protocol. I do miss more protocol sometimes, but I know that I need more time, especially now I have a back injury to contend with.
As his submissive I continue to serve M, but the last few months I knew that there was something missing, not within me, but within him. So a month ago I decided to ask M if he wanted to look for someone else to play with, and to my surprise, and I think his too, he said yes!
Searching for an online submissive when you’re already in a D/s and long term relationship can bring it’s pitfalls, especially as a male Dominant on sites such as Fetlife and the like. It’s basically a sausage fest on Fetlife, but not always in a good way. You’re competing with the inexperienced but all talk ‘doms’ who post fake photos and want to collar as many submissives as possible, in some kind of ‘true dom’ display of ‘domliness’. But, being the patient Dominant, M seems to have found a potential secondary already who he is now considering. =^^= I honestly couldn’t be happier for M, knowing that he is able to fulfil his desires is just amazing. It’s also been interesting see him spread his wings, as he’s never experienced an open relationship before, so for me it’s smiles all round. I’ve even got permission to play a little online myself…